Bullying



WELCOME!:) What causes bullying?

Bullying is bad. Help us stop it! Dear people that are reading this: if you are thinking about looking at some of the youtube videos i recomdnd the first 1 because its really helpfull but if you want to know what its really like to be bullied then the anti-bullying animation. Mr C took it off because he thought it was not aprpriate but if you would like to see it, go to YouTube and type in //anti bullying animation.// Sorry to the people who watched the anti bullying animation and got a bit weird. Anyway, ENJOY :) FROM LILLY AND OLIVIA:) PS the anti-bullying animation video is not suitable for people under the age of 10 years **What is bullying?** Please, I recomend that you look at FELYDIA'S BULLYING GUIDE. Its got lots of info on it about cyber bullying OLIVIA'S STUDENT QUESTIONS (you might want to research these too), What is the average people being bullied in this country? How can we resolve it? What types of bullying are there? Why do people bully? If you have any information that has got to do with these questions, please post in our discussion board Thanks!:) **Bullying is when someone keeps doing or saying things to have power over another person.** Some of the ways they bully other people are by: calling them names, saying or writing nasty things about them, leaving them out of activities, not talking to them, threatening them, making them feel uncomfortable or scared, taking or damaging their things, hitting or kicking them, or making them do things they don't want to do.

Kids Help Line: 1800 55 1800. The kids help line is not just for bullying it is for all sorts of problems that kids have. If you are having problems its good to try getting some help by calling this number. It's for FREE! Please dont prank call this number. Its not a very nice thing to do

** Children have different reasons. Some explanations include: **
 * **2 reasons experts think people bully are because they like the feeling of power bullying gives them, and because members of a group can, by picking on an 'outsider', feel closer to one another.**

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 * **Peer pressure forcing them into bullying others**
 * **That everyone does it and it's a normal and natural thing to do**
 * ** The way that bullies behave towards others is just the same as adults behave. **
 * **That it's enjoyable and fun to bully**
 * **That victims of bullying deserved to be bullied.**


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= what is bullying and harassment? = Bullying and harassment occur when people use and abuse power to trouble, annoy or oppress a person. As many as 20 per cent of students in Australian schools have experienced bullying and harassment. The real figure may be even higher, because many problems are not reported. Bullying and harassment can often be based on perceptions about differences such as


 * * culture || * sexual orientation || * body size ||
 * * ethnicity || * ability or disability || * physical appearance ||
 * * gender || * economic status || * age ||
 * * sexuality || * religion || * marital status ||
 * * economic status ||  ||   ||   ||

Bullying and harassment can...
> > ** physical bullying: ** being hit, tripped, kicked, pinched etc > > **verbal bullying:** being called names, teased, put down etc. words hurt. see the ad for info. > > **psychological bullying:** being threatened, stalked, gestures etc > > **social bullying:** being ignored, having rumours spread about you, excluding someone etc > > **sexual bullying:** unwanted touching or brushing against someone, picking on someone because of their sexual orientation etc > > **cyber bullying:** insulting someone in chat rooms, sending cruel or threatening emails/text messages; using the web, chat rooms or mobile phones to spread rumours or information about someone etc
 * come in many forms for example:
 * be motivated by jealousy, distrust, fear, misunderstanding or lack of knowledge
 * make people feel threatened
 * continue over time
 * be hidden from adults
 * continue if adults and peers take no action.

Conflict can start bullying. PLease look at this link to see what is conflict resolution and how to fix it: [] The cyber bullying information from Lydia is under here: "Cyberbullying" is when a child, preteen or teen is tormented, threatened, harassed, humiliated, embarrassed or otherwise targeted by another child, preteen or teen using the Internet, interactive and digital technologies or mobile phones. It has to have a minor on both sides, or at least have been instigated by a minor against another minor. Once adults become involved, it is plain and simple cyber-harassment or cyberstalking. Adult cyber-harassment or cyberstalking is NEVER called cyberbullying. It isn't when adult are trying to lure children into offline meetings, that is called sexual exploitation or luring by a sexual predator. But sometimes when a minor starts a cyberbullying campaign it involves sexual predators who are intrigued by the sexual harassment or even ads posted by the cyberbullying offering up the victim for sex. The methods used are limited only by the child's imagination and access to technology. And the cyberbully one moment may become the victim the next. The kids often change roles, going from victim to bully and back again. Children have killed each other and committed suicide after having been involved in a cyberbullying incident. Cyberbullying is usually not a one time communication, unless it involves a death threat or a credible threat of serious bodily harm. Kids usually know it when they see it, while parents may be more worried about the lewd language used by the kids than the hurtful effect of rude and embarrassing posts. Cyberbullying may arise to the level of a misdemeanor cyberharassment charge, or if the child is young enough may result in the charge of juvenile delinquency. Most of the time the cyberbullying does not go that far, although parents often try and pursue criminal charges. It typically can result in a child losing their ISP or IM accounts as a terms of service violation. And in some cases, if hacking or password and identity theft is involved, can be a serious criminal matter under state and federal law. When schools try and get involved by disciplining the student for cyberbullying actions that took place off-campus and outside of school hours, they are often sued for exceeding their authority and violating the student's free speech right. They also, often lose. Schools can be very effective brokers in working with the parents to stop and remedy cyberbullying situations. They can also educate the students on cyberethics and the law. If schools are creative, they can sometimes avoid the claim that their actions exceeded their legal authority for off-campus cyberbullying actions. We recommend that a provision is added to the school's acceptable use policy reserving the right to discipline the student for actions taken off-campus if they are intended to have an effect on a student or they adversely affect the safety and well-being of student while in school. This makes it a contractual, not a constitutional, issue.
 * What is cyberbullying, exactly?**

There are two kinds of cyberbullying, direct attacks (messages sent to your kids directly) and cyberbullying by proxy (using others to help cyberbully the victim, either with or without the accomplice's knowledge). Because cyberbullying by proxy often gets adults involved in the harassment, it is much more dangerous.
 * How cyberbullying works**

Who knows why kids do anything? When it comes to cyberbullying, they are often motivated by anger, revenge or frustration. Sometimes they do it for entertainment or because they are bored and have too much time on their hands and too many tech toys available to them. Many do it for laughs or to get a reaction. Some do it by accident, and either send a message to the wrong recipient or didn't think before they did something. The Power-hungry do it to torment others and for their ego. Revenge of the Nerd may start out defending themselves from traditional bullying only to find that they enjoy being the tough guy or gal. Mean girls do it to help bolster or remind people of their own social standing. And some think they are righting wrong and standing up for others. Because their motives differ, the solutions and responses to each type of cyberbullying incident has to differ too. Unfortunately, there is no "one size fits all" when cyberbullying is concerned. Only two of the types of cyberbullies have something in common with the traditional schoolyard bully. Experts who understand schoolyard bullying often misunderstand cyberbullying, thinking it is just another method of bullying. But the motives and the nature of cybercommunications, as well as the demographic and profile of a cyberbully differ from their offline counterpart.
 * Why do kids cyberbully each other?**

Educating the kids about the consequences (losing their ISP or IM accounts) helps. Teaching them to respect others and to take a stand against bullying of all kinds helps too.
 * Preventing cyberbullying**

Because their motives differ, the solutions and responses to each type of cyberbullying incident has to differ too. Unfortunately, there is no "one size fits all" when cyberbullying is concerned. Only two of the types of cyberbullies have something in common with the traditional schoolyard bully. Experts who understand schoolyard bullying often misunderstand cyberbullying, thinking it is just another method of bullying. But the motives and the nature of cybercommunications, as well as the demographic and profile of a cyberbully differ from their offline counterpart.
 * How can you stop it once it starts?**

When schools try and get involved by disciplining the student for cyberbullying actions that took place off-campus and outside of school hours, they are often sued for exceeding their authority and violating the student's free speech right. [[|**Learn more...**]]
 * What is the school's role in this?**

Parents need to be the one trusted place kids can go when things go wrong online and offline. Yet they often are the one place kids avoid when things go wrong online. Education can help considerably in preventing and dealing with the consequences of cyberbullying. The first place to begin an education campaign is with the kids and teens themselves. We need to address ways they can become inadvertent cyberbullies, how to be accountable for their actions and not to stand by and allow bullying (in any form) to be acceptable. We need to teach them not to ignore the pain of others. Teaching kids to “Take 5!” before responding to something they encounter online is a good place to start. Jokingly, we tell them to “Drop the Mouse! And step away from the computer and no one will get hurt!” We then encourage them to find ways to help them calm down. This may include doing yoga, or deep-breathing. It may include running, playing catch or shooting hoops. It may involve taking a bath, hugging a stuffed animal or talking on the phone with friends. Each child can find their own way of finding their center again. And if they do, they will often not become a cyberbully, even an inadvertent cyberbully. Teaching them the consequences of their actions, and that the real “Men in Black” may show up at their front door sometimes helps. Since many cyberbullying campaigns include some form of hacking or password or identity theft, serious laws are implicated. Law enforcement, including the FBI, might get involved in these cases. But we need to recognize that few cyberbullying campaigns can succeed without the complacency and the often help of other kids. If we can help kids understand how much bullying hurts, how in many cases (unlike the children’s chant) words //can// hurt you, fewer may cooperate with the cyberbullies. They will think twice before forwarding a hurtful e-mail, or visiting a cyberbullying “vote for the fat girl” site, or allowing others to take videos or cell phone pictures of personal moments or compromising poses of others. Martin Luther King, Jr. once said that in the end we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends. We need to teach our children not to stand silently by while others are being tormented. While it is crucial that we teach them not to take matters into their own hands (and perhaps become a "vengeful angel" cyberbully themselves) they need to come to us. And if we expect them to trust us, we need to be worthy of that trust. (Read more about this at "[|**Goldilocks and the cyberbullies...not too hot and not too cold**]," a guide for parents.) And, in addition to not lending their efforts to continue the cyberbullying, if given an anonymous method of reporting cyberbullying Web sites, profiles and campaigns, kids can help put an end to cyberbullying entirely. School administration, community groups and even school policing staff can receive these anonymous tips and take action quickly when necessary to shut down the site, profile or stop the cyberbullying itself. They can even let others know that they won’t allow cyberbullying, supporting the victim, making it clear that they won’t be used to torment others and that they care about the feelings of others is key. Martin Luther King, Jr. once said “In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends.” We need to teach our children that silence, when others are being hurt, is not acceptable. If they don’t allow the cyberbullies to use them to embarrass or torment others, cyberbullying will quickly stop. It’s a tall task, but a noble goal. And in the end, our children will be safer online and offline. We will have helped create a generation of good cybercitizens, controlling the technology instead of being controlled by it. Lydia and Flic's info:
 * What's the parents' role in this?**
 * Take a stand against cyberbullying**

Types of cyberbullying: 1. Instant Messaging/Text Messaging Harassment 2. Stealing Passwords 3. Blogs/Websites 4. Sending Pictures through E-mail and Cell Phones 5. Internet Polling 6. Sending Viruses 7. Sending Junk E-Mail 8. Impersonation __**Insant Messaging Harassment **__ Kids may send hateful or threatening messages to other kids.They may not realize it but it is true that even thoug it wasn't said in real life, unkind or threatening messages are hurtful and very serious. A kid/teen may create a name that is very similar to another kid's name. The name may have an additional "i" or one less "e". They may use this name to say inappropriate things to other users while pretending to be the other person. Text wars or text attacks are when kids gang up on the victim, sending thousands of text-messages to the victims cell phone or other devices. The victim is then faced with a huge cell phone bill and angry parents.

__**Stealing Passwords**__ A kid may steal another child's password and begin to chat with other people, pretending to be the other kid. He/she may say mean things that hurt peoples feeling. But the person being offended isn't who they think they are. <span style="color: #8f26e3; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">A kid may also use another kid's password to change his/her profile to include inappropriate things that may attract unwanted attention or offend people. <span style="color: #8f26e3; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">A kid often steals the password and locks the victim out of their own account.

<span style="color: #8f26e3; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">__**Blogs/Websites**__ <span style="color: #8f26e3; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Blogs are online journals. They are a fun way for kids and teens to message all of their friends. However, kids sometimes use these blogs to damage other kids' reputations or invade their privacy. <span style="color: #8f26e3; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Children used to tease each other in the playground, but now they do it on websites. Kids sometimes create websites that may insult or put another child in danger. They create pages specifically designed to insult another kid or a group of people. <span style="color: #8f26e3; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Kids also post other peoples personal information and pictures, which put those people at a greater risk of being contacted or found.

<span style="color: #8f26e3; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">__**Sending Codes**__ <span style="color: #8f26e3; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Many kids will send viruses, spyware and hacking programs to their victims. They do this to either destroy their computers or spy on their victim. Some programs allow the cyberbully to control their victim's computer using remote control, and can sometimes be used to erase the hard drive of the victim.

<span style="color: #8f26e3; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">__**Internet Polling**__ <span style="color: #8f26e3; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Who's Hot? Who's Not? Who is the biggest slut in sixth grade? <span style="color: #8f26e3; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">These are the questions the run wild on the internet these days, all created by kids and teens.These questions can get really offensive to others and can damage one another in many ways.

<span style="color: #8f26e3; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">__**Impersonation**__ <span style="color: #8f26e3; font-family: 'Comic Sans MS',cursive; font-size: 120%;">Pretending to be the victim, the cyberbully can do serious damage. They may post an inappropriate message in a group's chatroom posing as the victim, inviting an attack against the victim, often giving the name, address and telephone number of the victim to make the group's job easier. They sometimes also send a message to someone, saying hateful or threatening things while pretending to be the victim. They may also change a message really from the victim, making it appear that they have said nasty things or shared secrets with others.

You should hear about all the poepl getting bullied in this world. Hear this one. It's always good to hear about stories about people getting bullied so you can find out how they really feel

Nicky started calling a girl at school names thinking it was a laugh. But things got out of hand... Penny had thick glasses, wiry ginger hair, and a face full of freckles. She hardly spoke in class and when she did it was usually to make some kind of sarcastic comment, or take a dig at one of the rest of us for not being as brainy as her.

**She made me look dumb**
One day I put my hand up to answer a question and, when I got it wrong, I could hear Penny sniggering. She shouted out the right answer in a really smug way and made me look a total numb-brain! “At least I'm not a ginger minger!” I had to say something back, so I shouted, "at least I'm not a ginger minger!".

Everyone started laughing and joined in shouting "ginger minger" at her. Penny started crying and I got sent out of the class.

**Picking on her felt good**
I know it sounds horrible, but seeing her cry like that made me feel good.

don't know why, it was like finding a new power. After that I started calling Penny names whenever I saw her. My friends would do the same and we said some really horrible things. She used to try and say stuff back, but it was always really lame and we'd laugh at her even more.

Sometimes we'd hide Penny's belongings at school. We used to think it was hilarious to see her searching around for it. And when we found out her mobile phone number we sent her text messages and phoned her up, putting on funny voices and trying to trick her.

**It was only a bit of fun**
I never really thought about how it was affecting Penny. We were only having a laugh with her. I suppose I just thought that, because Penny was so clever, she'd just think we were idiots and forget it. But it turned out it was affecting her a lot.

**She tried to kill herself**
At school one morning, me and a few of my friends got called to see the Headmistress. She told us that Penny was in hospital because she'd drank some bleach. She said she'd done it because she wanted to get away from the bullying.

felt absolutely awful. It was only supposed to be a joke, I had no idea Penny had taken it all so badly. I started crying right in front of my friends and couldn't stop. I said I'd do anything to make it OK.

The school arranged for me to have counselling.

The counsellor was really good. We talked a lot about my family and how my big sister treated me like I'd treated Penny. It made me understand my sister a bit better and helped me see that picking on someone else was not a good way to make myself feel important.

**I learned a better way**
After a while I talked to Mum and Dad about everything and then my sister. It was good to get everything out in the open. Now if something bothers me, I talk to my family about it, and my sister doesn't pick on me anymore. “I sent her a letter saying I'm sorry” I sent a letter to Penny saying how sorry I was. I still haven't heard back from her. She went to a different school after what happened. I hope she's happier there. I've found that saying nice things and making other people feel good about themselves makes me feel much better than making fun of them ever did. I think I would like to be counsellor when I'm older.



Please look at this image: [] This is the link to the cyber bullying info. I would apriciate if u look at the image because that is one sign of cyber bullying. [] []

Please look at this web adress to understand how to deal with bullying: []